How To Secure The Meet Up
You’ve Got Her Interested, Now What?
You’ve piqued her interest, engaged her in a messaging conversation and you’ve gently inserted some messages about the location. Now, it’s time to go in for the meet up. If you are in control of the conversation, then ask her out for a drink at a quiet place.
*As a caveat to all of this, if you are messaging and she asks you to go to her place, DO IT! You don’t need to gain back control by asking her to meet for a drink instead. When she is handing you sex, take it and be grateful.
Don’t take her to a concert or a club. This isn’t a standard date but you do want to be able to hear her when she gives you ques. Also, remember you want to make her feel safe, so sometimes it helps if you setup the meet up earlier in the night. Many times, I like to start looking at profiles around 7pm, and do most of my messaging before 8. I like to mention that I have friends I’m meeting up with at 11pm or even midnight. This lets the girl know a) that I have friends and b) that this truly is a casual meet up for me too. Girls like to know you have other things going on.
So, after some messaging, I’ll say something like this:
“I am meeting with some buddies at 11, want to meet at Example Wine Bar at 9 for a drink?”
Then, if things are going well, you can make it look like you’re blowing off your buddies for her. If you meet a lame duck or she doesn’t look like her profile pics then you have an escape plan.
Turning The Meet Up Into A Hook Up
You’re Hitting It Off, Now Back To Your Place…
When you see her at the bar, introduce yourself and ask her if you can get her a drink right away. It gives both of you a second to process each other and makes you look like a gentleman. Also, buy her drinks unless she insists.
Have only 2 drinks. No more! Possibly less. There is nothing worse than going through this whole process then you’re new f*** buddy gets belligerent and you have to drive her home hoping she doesn’t puke on your car. Trust me, it happens more than you’d think.
Once you’ve been engaged in some conversation for a little while and feel there is some sexual chemistry, then it’s time to ask her back to your place. It’s really important here to act confident when you ask her. There aren’t many things less appealing to a girl than a guy stumbling around the question of asking her back to his place.
Don’t overthink it. You’ve already done the hard work. Now, simply ask her “You want to go back to my place?”
She’ll likely respond in 1 of 3 ways:
- “What are we going to do back at your place?”
- “Sorry, I can’t because…”
When I first started doing this, I wasn’t expecting #2 but it’s the response I get most often. In fact, it’s really sexy when girls say it. They know what they’re doing. J
My favorite response to use is going to be something that ties in something else within our conversation. For instance, if we’d already talked about porn (yes, this happens all the time on these meet ups) then I might say something like “I want to show you my porn collection.” It’s important you say this with a smile. If the conversation has been a little lighter and maybe I don’t feel comfortable saying that, then tell her about something else that might interest her. For instance…
“You’ve got to meet my dog, Rufus”
“My goldfish literally just texted me and he is dying to meet you”
“I think (movie/tv show you guys already talked about) is on Netflix”
“The drinks here suck, let me make you a real (cosmopolitan/whiskey sour/old fashioned)”
These have all worked for me and will work for you too.
Just remember to use my examples as a guide while you’re going through the process. These are the lines/sentences that work during the most crucial parts of the process. For the rest of the time, just be a comfortable version of yourself. Don’t be aggressive or soft. Be relaxed and confident. You’ll do fine. Now, what are you waiting for? Get online and find someone to hook up with tonight!
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