Hookup sites don’t work for 95%(or more) of guys. With that being said, there are guys that it could work for if they choose the right sites and know how to message a girl properly to setup a one night stand. It’s highly unlikely you’ll find a good looking local girl to hookup with even on the best sites. So, who’s actually going to find women to hookup with?
You rate yourself an 8, 9, or 10 and are willing to settle for a 3, 4, or 5
Sounds harsh, but it’s true. The competition to reach the limited supply of women is outrageous. A “really good” site can offer a ratio of 10:1 guys to girls, but most are even worse. So, why can’t a a good looking guy attract a good looking girl on these sites? It’s simple, there are none. These women don’t need to signup for a site to meet guys for a hookup. They can go anywhere they want and get almost any guy they want. Don’t be so foolish to believe otherwise. Now, if you are willing to settle or you’re really into fat women (or perhaps some other weird fetish) then with the proper expectations you may find what you’re looking for.
You consider Tinder, Plentyoffish, OKCupid, and Match.com to be “hookup sites/apps” and know how to talk to women on these sites
These are totally free and are very effective if you know what you’re doing. Tinder rules! Tinder is what Adultfriendfinder wishes it had been. POF, OKC, and Match are also great but you should know how to appropriately talk to girls if you are just looking for casual flings.
You signed up and had fun
It’s true, you can have fun on a lot of these casual hookup sites. If you’re looking for entertainment value here, then you may not be disappointed. Most of the larger sites are including webcams within their subscriptions. There would be no issue here if they were offering a great webcam service, but they’re telling you that local hot women want to hook up and that’s not true.
You may have also signed up and had fun through some email exchanges and chats. You were never looking to meet anyone in person and are totally content behind the computer screen. If you allow yourself to be convinced the girl on the other end of chat looks like the girl below, then more power to you.